This month, I hit the big “40”. I have to say I welcome it with open arms and excitement as I enter this stage in life. I have taken some time to reflect many things in my life and thought about what I have and have not accomplished. I have taken the advice I give my 7 year old daughter, “when you mess up or don’t achieve what you want, think about why and how you can do it differently.”
I have to confess when I turned 30, I set a goal to be a great swimmer and become a regular tennis player by the time I was 40. Well guess what? I can count on one hand how many times I have gotten in the pool over the last ten years and I know for a fact I have only been on the tennis courts once.
The truth of the matter is I don’t like either one (I apologize to all of my tennis friends) nor did I have the time I need to spend on each of them with a busy, hectic schedule. It just did not fit with my schedule. So in reality, I was setting myself up for failure.
Setting unrealistic goals and expectations by attempting to do things that you do not like just might be what is keeping you from achieving results. Yes, to see changes in your body and fitness, new exercises and intensities need to be incorporated, but find a few things that you LOVE, or can tolerate so that you will adhere to your exercise program.
I am not giving up on tennis or swimming completely, but I know for now, it is too much of a burden to fit in. I am sticking with what I love and enjoy doing.
It is how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success.