“Mom, I‘m done with my room; does it have to be perfect?” These are the words coming from my nine year old daughter as she cleans her room. I suddenly realize that I have affirmed her with the word “perfect” when completing a task “I” felt was how it should be done. What am I saying to her? Does she have to be perfect before I think she has done a good job? If her grade improved from an 80 in math to 90, is that good or will she feel it needs to be a 100 to be accepted? Increasing her grade by 10 points is progress that needs to be celebrated and is a big accomplishment. I now speak to her different because I want her to celebrate progress not perfection; something I have learned in my own life.
Perfect is such a common word used by women today as there seems to be a need to achieve it. Then when perfection is not conquered, feelings of failure, guilt and insecurity can happen.
This year instead of setting unrealistic expectations, let us all focus on where and how we can grow instead of striving for perfection. Celebrating progress builds confidence with a life of wellness and balance.
Over the next few weeks, I want to get real and discuss the areas of life, we as women, can put undue pressures on our self such as our health and fitness, spiritual life, career and as a wife and mother. Let’s talk about how we can grow and be better, not perfect.
I want my daughter to grow up feeling proud of her successes and good about her accomplishments. I want her to have a mother who spends time and celebrates with her instead of working hard to have everything just perfect.